Why It’s Okay To Not Have A Personal Style

Why It’s Okay To Not Have A Personal Style

I love fashion. It has been one of the constants of my life, my passion for clothing and beautiful things has carried me through my twenty-one years on this marvelous and baffling planet. But finding my personal style is a whole other kettle of fish.

I’ve always been a bit of a flirt when it comes to personal style. Trying different trends and looks only to flit on to the next- never quite feeling that the entire image suited me. I loved the outfits and individual pieces, but I couldn’t imagine sticking to something so specific day in and day out. I adore the chic sophistication of tailored dresses and sky-high stilettos. But flowing dresses and floral prints appeal to my inner bohemian. And then the all American obsession with denim rears its head and I channel summer prep in cutoffs, white shirts and loafers. Places and the people I’m around have a huge effect on my style du jour. My year recent year in France, for example, gave me an appreciation for stripes, red lipstick and the slightly oversized blazer. Do you see where I’m going with this?

This summer I’m living for color and vintage. If I’m not in a bright outfit then it’s a vintage inspired one with bright accessories and makeup. Gold remains my favorite: necklaces, rings, bracelets, earrings- even the face of my watch. My current obsession includes mom jeans with printed shirts, miniskirts with graphic tees, and white sundresses- all paired with my Sezane pink trainers or leather sandals. And over the course of the next few months, as the hazy golden season fades into crackling leaves and cozy layers- my style will change again.

You could say my personal style is eclectic at best, inconsistent at worst. And that’s perfectly okay. We don’t all need to be the walking personification of Stockholm fashion week. While some people find freedom in finding a specific personal style and sticking to it, for me it’s rather stressful. I want to buy things I love, wear things that make me feel good. Frankly I couldn’t give a rat’s ass if I switch from California vintage to uptown sophisticate from one outfit to the next. The only thing important in my opinion is that you genuinely love what you wear. I’ve recently been reading  The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving A F**k by Sarah Knight. In it she talks about having a F**k Budget, as in the specific things you are willing to spend your time, energy, money and emotions on. Trying to stuff myself into a stylistic archetype simply didn’t make the cut, it sounds exhausting and rather too much like acting. I am neither a glamorous film star, nor a dedicated hipster and most certainty not the second coming of Sporty Spice. I’m just a gal who loves clothes. So lovelies, if you have a personal style that fills you with joy- carry on into the sunset. If like me, you are enamored with fashion but mystified by personal style- welcome to the club!





  1. Jan Jacobs
    June 25, 2018 / 12:09 pm

    A classic style utilizes timeless pieces and skips the “fashionista” aspect of the present. Keep it simple and beautiful.

    • Margaret Holmes
      July 3, 2018 / 8:31 pm

      Well said, I try to aim for simple and beautiful in all that I do. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and write this comment! The support from you all at SSSAS means the world especially as you all knew me before any glamour or jetsetting.

      xoxo Maggie

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